Life can feel as topsy-turvy as a rollercoaster ride.
One moment we are cresting the waves, reaching for the sky ~ the next we sink deep and plummet to earth with a bang.
Our emotions as changeable as the weather and just as unpredictable.
It doesn’t take much. Just check your phone, tablet or i-pad. See how many notifications, likes, comments, follows and positive responses there are ~ or not as the case may be.
Where’s the stability in a life lived by the varying opinions of others?
We are hardwired for love, security and approval. God put it into our DNA.
He expects us to receive the full approval we need from Him alone. Yet we go chasing empty cisterns when His well never runs dry.
How we hunger for validation. Look for any means to satisfy our appetites. Though, if we look in the wrong places, it soon leaves us emptier than before.
Approval, compliments and favour
flow sweet as liquid honey
and we savour their soothing flavour
find ourselves craving so much more
to satisfy a desire inside where we
hide small ~ afraid we’re not enough
Disapproval, criticism and derision
sting brutal, sharp as lemon sour
and we shrink further back
into our shells, craven cowards
who lack a shred of self-worth
in our shrivelled disposition
So we swing ~ from pain to bliss
depending on our mood
and how much, or how little,
we feel loved, cherished and approved
Walls cracked as toffee brittle,
defences crumbling, gaping, split
“We can be sealed for eternity, Christ-bought and heaven-bound but still live like cowards, locked down by the chains of what people might think of us” ~ Jennifer Dukes Lee ‘Love Idol’
The approval monster is an insatiable beast. Offer him tidbits and he will lick his lips appreciatively for a while, but it won’t be long before he’s demanding a full-blown meal or a veritable feast to satisfy his appetite.
As an insecure child at heart, I have been greatly tempted to seek my worth and value in other people and other things.
Our best and most lasting way to find satisfaction is to see ourselves as we are in Christ. Look in the mirror of God’s word instead of sighing over the reflection in the glass.
When the world says:You’re a failure by our standards; you’re ‘less than’ until we say you’re ‘enough’; you’re rejected, unless you come up higher; you’re unworthy, just because we say so ~ how should we respond?
How would it look to live, love, work and write for an audience of One?
How would we feel if we could truly believe and receive how God perceives us?
I’m not sure as yet. I’m feeling stuck, stalled by situations and problems looming large. Sidelined by sickness. Derailed by doubt.
Yet despite these setbacks, I am choosing to study God’s word, relinquish and demolish my ‘love idols’, apply the biblical precepts, draw help from Jennifer’s book , see how to grow into a deeper awareness of how much God loves and pre-approves of me, and discover who I already am in Christ.
And that’s the best way to start ~ with a hungry, open heart toward Him. God is a rewarder of all who earnestly and diligently seek Him.
I’d love you to join me as I chart my stumbling journey into wholeness. We have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
There’s a growing community here seeking to live pre-approved. Would you join us? I hope so. We don’t have to live stalled lives, stuck in the people-approval trap.
We can learn to release all that’s holding us back from living fully, freely and joyfully committed to God’s ways.
“He’ll validate your life in the clear light of day and stamp you with approval at high noon” ~ Psalm 37:6 ‘The Message’